How does your personality affect relationships and how do you
overcome self-limitations?
Relationships! Fascinating aren’t they? We all want functional happy
relationships; that fulfil our needs. If we all want the same then why
can relationships be so difficult sometimes?
Have you ever wondered why you just click with some people and not
others?
Ever noticed that some people walk into the room and it lights up,
they breeze through life being popular, liked by everyone and have so
much variety and adventure in their life? They always seem to have
everything going right. Yet sometimes have the most disastrous
relationships?
Or what about the people who are always putting themselves second
giving to others making sure everyone else is comfortable, often at
the expense of their own needs. Does that mean they are walked on?
Or the person who wants to know the detail or can be quiet at first
but as you get to know them you peel back the layers and find an
incredible individual who simply takes time to open up and trust
others.
Or the person that is driven by significance, they live by the motto,
“it’s my way or the highway!” They are strong, often very
successful want to go straight to the outcome, they want results
yesterday! In un-resourceful states they are often get very
demanding as they only see it their way.
Do any of these personality types resonate with you? As individuals
we are generally made up of between 1 – 3 blends of personality types
with one being your dominant.
It’s these personality types that also determine who you are most
attracted to, how you behave in a relationship and who you naturally
get along with.
Knowing your personality type and that of others is the key to
happiness and successful relationships. I have detailed a brief
breakdown of the behavioural patterns to look for the four main
personality types.
See if you can pick which one best describes you or if you are a blend
of a few.
Wants to Win
This person is really competitive, loves challenge. They are into the
facts, fast paced and getting to the point. This person likes to be in
charge of several things at once and relishes environments of power
and authority. They are big picture thinkers who will delegate the
details.
They don’t like to be told what to do and are not interested in
other’s opinions.
They can be impatient. They are very much ‘what’ people wanting to
be very clear on the end game.
Wants to Be Liked
This person is charismatic and loves being around people. They are big
picture people who get bored with detail. They get excited about
possibilities future and what it could mean for them. They avoid
confrontation and are motivated by the importance of being liked –
big time!
They love, being the centre of attention. They are afraid of missing
out on people, things, or events.
They crave and are significantly driven by variety and connection.
They have an uncanny knack of making you feel real comfortable they
are quick to get involved in heart to heart conversations.
Wants to Be Comfortable
This person craves certainty, predictability and takes their time in
making decisions. They are conservative types and will stick with
their relationship/hobby/career for a long time. They are extremely
reliable. They are driven by security safety and connection.
They are outstanding at taking care of others and looking after
others’ needs at the expense of their own. They thrive in slow paced
environments that are well systemized. If their environment is not,
they will organize it.
Wants to Be Right
This person is best known for their technical prowess. They are detail
orientated. You will normally find this kind of person in a career that
is highly specialized. Eg professors, CPA’s Engineers.
Hence being The Type Who Want To Be Right. So this is not in an
egotistical fashion, more so in an analytical, factual type fashion.
Their personalities tend to be standoffish and misinterpreted as cold
people, however are the most loyal type of individuals. Their criteria
for establishing trust is normally quite long and detailed. Once you
have been entrusted they will stick with you for life.
So there you have it, personality types.
It’s easy to see how the person who wants to be liked is driven by
variety and adventure and often picks men who are emotionally
unavailable, who are often bad boys and a challenge. If a woman who
hasn’t fulfilled her core need of variety and adventure within herself
she will seek this need to be filled elsewhere which often isn’t ideal.
Or the dominant woman who isn’t balanced correctly drives men away
with her constant need for significance. She will seek a stable man
who provides her with lots of certainty only over time she will get
bored.
The need to be comfortable woman often is never having her needs
meet, she is giving and giving and her man usually ends up marrying
someone else and she is left wondering why?
The woman who needs to be right is often mistaken for being over
analytical and tense and is often categorised by her man for lacking
adventure.
There are ups and downs of all the personality types especially if you
are unaware of your own. Knowing your dominant personality type
and blend can really help you move forward and have the best possible
relationship, firstly with yourself, then with an incredible man.
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